Tammy's Bird Brain

A friend the other day said, “Wow, you and Clint really have it figured out. It seems like you guys communicate so well and get along so well. What is your secret to such a great marriage?”


I burst out in laughter and the thought “Holy crap we have you fooled”.
She is a single friend and for a second I thought of telling her some great answer like:
“Oh, it’s easy you just have to love each other a lot and that is it”.


Since it is the mission of all marrieds to get singles to jump on board the {super awesome}* train and get married too I thought about lying and telling her that when really a couple weeks in and the honeymoon is over you find yourself screaming out like Monica on Friends “I HAVE TO LIVE WITH A BOY!!!!!!!!”


On the 22nd of this month I will have been married for 10 years. Yes a decade. I’m not going to lie and tell you that it has been super easy and that I am an amazing wife. Sometimes marriage feels like it is a test to see how bad we can hurt the other person to see if they will stick around. Why is it that we hurt the ones we love the very most?


Who knows, seriously?


My real answer to my friend was “Well it has taken us 10 years to figure it out”.


Not that it is smooth sailing but it is a lot easier now.


Marriage is pretty hard and I often wonder why it is in our natures to find one person and want to spend all of our time with them. But we do. Even if we are miserable we want to be with that one person.**


When I see young lovers preparing to get married I just smile and congratulate them. There is really nothing I can say to prepare them for what they are in for. They wouldn’t believe me anyways. All those chemicals are going in their brains and they are literally so addicted to that other person that they can’t fathom actually wanting to be without them for more than 24 hours. It is interesting when those chemicals wear off and you are left with your glistening reality and you are screaming “I HAVE TO LIVE WITH A BOY!!!!!!!”




I am determined that Eva won’t marry before she is 30. It is my firm belief that you receive your brain as your 30th birthday present. With your brain you are actually capable of making important decisions like marriage and which religion you want to be baptized in. Before that it is all guesswork and whatever everyone else is doing. That is the whole explanation of extra terrestrials. They are just coming to insert our brains.


Tell me, when do you think you received your brain?




*{} these will now denote sarcasm. I have always wanted a symbol for sarcasm so that you can hear the tone of my voice and this is the best I can do. For all you wise English people I apologize but I have no idea what {} is for but why not sarcasm?
**I don’t mean this post to be negative against marriage. I believe in it and I am very glad to be married. I am not always miserable but occasionally there are short moments when I want to throw a full size tantrum and only have my way.

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